Kristina, Jada, & Jeff
Kristina, 33
Jeff Jr. , 6
Jay'dah, 11
"My favorite part about being a mother is hearing 'I love you,' and them giving me kisses. And being able to hold them when they're upset, wipe their tears, clean their boogers, and tell them that everything is gonna' be ok. The scariest part about being a mother is failing them by not giving them my all, everyday. Every single day. I want to be consistent in showing them the way. God is my guiding light and so for them, but I'm their guiding light in the physical form. I just hope my light doesn't go out. I don't want my time to run out, and I haven't prepared them to move on without me. That's the scariest part, and I didn't tap into that until after I had my son. I would constantly have dreams about time running out. It would bother me. Like, why do I keep having these dreams about time running out? Why now? I just want to make sure that when my time comes, they will be okay, and sustain their values and morals and skills in the real world, amongst other people."
"I want to show them that hard work does pay off and as long as you work hard you will be okay. It does pay off. Sometimes working hard you're gonna' be told no, and people won't be happy but you gotta' keep pushing. You gotta' keep pushing and you gotta do what's right. Have respect for yourself have respect for others, even when they don't have respect for you. And love people regardless. My children don't understand what hate is. Last year, my daughter had an experience where she was the only Black girl in her class. And she had to experience what it is to be a Black girl. To be teased and kinda' isolated because no one in the room looks like you. I'm still trying to figure out how to teach them about navigating that. I just want my children to be people of great character, so I don't really want them outside hanging with other random kids and being around just anybody. I'm not saying that them going outside and being around other children won't help to build that character, 'cause they do need social skills, but I need them to understand that certain things are not okay. There are things that your parents are not gonna' allow you to do, that you see other children doing. I want to keep them protected. Even if that means keeping them in the house and kinda' sheltering them a little bit. It might have some negative effects, but I'm looking at the bigger picture. I want them to have a childhood but I also want them to maintain the good character that they have. They're growing up in a dangerous society, and it is my duty to help prepare them for that."
"A woman is someone of great character that is built from good and bad experiences. A woman is strength. To be a woman, especially a Black woman, is to push through everything that life throws at you. In order to survive as a Black woman, you have to have this type of strength. You always have to fight. In this world nothing was really designed for a woman. You gotta push past every obstacle in your way. There is no room to give up. There's room for error, but no room to give up."
"I work hard to be someone that they look up to. To leave a legacy of what family means and how it should be for them. I want them to know that family should always be important. Do all that you can to help and support them regardless. When it was all said and done, my mother loved me and I loved her, regardless of what happened in the past. You just gotta' love people. God designed your family the way he wanted to. You didn't choose it, but you only get one."